Coffee does not meet Bagel...yet

So about 3 weeks ago, I learned that I would be spending the next 3 years of my life in Michigan as an Emergency Medicine Resident at Henry Ford Hospital.  With that established, I decided to follow the advice of one of my friends from Chicago and installed an application called "Coffee Meets Bagel" on my phone.  Essentially, it is a dating app that connects you to people of your preference in your vicinity.  Within a few days, I had a few matches.  With the first match, I actually wasn't sure that I was really attracted to her, and because of that, I didn't see something being there long term.  Subsequently, I ignored her and never messaged her.  The next day, I matched once again with a different person, and I began a conversation immediately after the match.  The conversation went well, and we decided to meet up, but because she was out of town, we wouldn't be able to meet until the following week.  I continue to ignore my first match as I matched with someone else and I feel uncomfortable about talking to 2 people at the same time.

Several days into my ignoring my first match, she speaks up first and says hello.  I feel bad.  I offer to buy coffee, and when she doesn't respond, I entice with food and drink.  She pretty much says no.  Guilt overwhelms the mind.

Following week arrives - I message my 2nd match "Hey, hope you got back into town safely," and she replies that she did, and says "Would you be willing to meet up with a few others? Looks like you've spoken to my roommate on this app".  And instantly, I know that the already low chances of success in developing a relationship with my 2nd match, the match I was looking forward to meeting, has plummeted.

Folks, the lesson here is use your blinkers when you change lanes, and put down your phone while driving.  Maybe you won't die in the ensuing accident, but someone else might.  It's not worth it.  Also, talk to all of your matches on these dating things.  Know your agenda when engaging others, and be honest with your intentions.

So what happened?  I don't know yet.  There's a double date 2 days from now where I meet up with my 2nd match, and my first match will be there with another guy (another match??? I don't know).